Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Emma's Opinion on Friends with Benefits.

Of late, there has been an openness--of sorts--in the convenience of having yourself a friend with extra perks to the friendship, ones that you don't have with your other acquaintances. Someone to pass the time, lonely nights, and carnal itch, with until the next relationship. I think it all began way back, when personal ad's sprung up—some may recall a little film, Desperately Seeking Susan. Since then the personals have become somewhat of a pun, as we've advanced to Online Booty Call and whatnot.

I, for one, think it spectacular that we've progressed to such a sexually awakened society. Why, we may be but a breath away, to living a reality similar to Aldous Huxley's, Brave New World. My worry with the newfangled liberation is with the increase in outward sexuality and a parallel increase in entertainment ( movies, literature, Internet, et cetera, et cetera ) following along with popular culture, there has become a delusion that finding your future life partner via the fuck buddy is good as any other approach.

While I don't doubt, there may be small percentage who will or have experienced this naughty fairy tale ending--of finding a compatible, with one, who was once just a friend. There is an even larger percent though,  who think this will be their reality. In which in will not. Leading to disappointment—probably a lot of it. In a perfect sextopia, there would be little confusion, if all had the ability to withhold the emotions that often correlate with any sexual relationship. There are those who can accomplish this easy peasy like, but as those individuals are actually few, I think it important to remind, there are some who can and others who can not—nothing wrong with that. As long as you are aware that this is the type of sexual mentality you possess.

A few may be asking, “Emma, how do I know if I'm one of the few, the proud, and the horny?” In which I would reply, “Easy, my friend, trial and error.” Cruel, indeed, there is most likely a guarantee of heartache in the future, but in the name of science and all that, you must find a way.

For you heathens, who can enjoy sex in its pure primitiveness—get yo' grind on, just remember to stay safe.


Rawknrobyn.blogspot.com said...

I like your honesty, Emma. This is a great post. I found you through a comment you left on my blog a bit ago. Sorry for the delay but I'll be sticking around for more.

Gorilla Bananas said...

I don't really understand the "fuck buddy" concept. Isn't a "buddy" supposed to be a bosom friend? How could you not love a bosom friend that you were having sex with?

Emma Claw said...

Thanks, Ms. Robyn! I very much enjoy reading your blog posts as well so it won't be a surprise when you see me lurking around on your blog space.

Its complicated for us humans, Mr. Bananas. We like to make it difficult and categorize our various emotions. A love for a friend you're doing the horizontal tango with may be very different than you'll experience with another. And it is indeed, no easy feat to avoid falling into romantic feelings with your pal, when you likely already care for said friend.

Zertuzzi said...

neat blog mmmm

Emma Claw said...

Thank you, Mr. Zertuzzi.